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Learning How to Care for Myself


What happens after you ditch the guilt and conquer the grief? It is time to start caring for yourself. And that is exactly what I am doing.

I had a long talk with my amazing health coach, Tami Stackelhouse, today about this very subject. We discussed:

  • planning my week
  • scheduling in rest periods
  • scheduling in rest days
  • finding ways to cut down the number of trips I am making up/down the stairs each day
  • building more fun into my days – it is time to start living

I am so not a planner. I live entirely in the moment and don’t think beyond right now. This is good and bad. I don’t fret about yesterday or tomorrow. But I also don’t do a very good job of planning my week and I end up with back-to-back appointments, which only serves to crash me. My new commitment is to take a breath, look at my calendar and think through what makes the most sense when I am scheduling appointments.

I am scheduling rest times in the morning and afternoon on my calendar. Actually blocking it out as an appointment. If someone asks me to do something during one of those rest times, my answer is, “I’m sorry, but I have an appointment at that time.” They don’t need to know that appointment is with my pillow. ☺

Scheduling in rest days is something I have done in the past and then I somehow forgot and went back to working everyday. Going back to rest days on Tues, Thurs, Sat and Sun and work days on Mon, Wed and Fri. I will still keep my rest periods during my work days. That is important.

I just purchased a Fitbit. It is telling me how many steps I am taking, calories I am burning, floors I am climbing, etc. Well, I am out of control. I am walking an enormous number of steps and climbing way to many floors for being housebound and mainly bedridden. This is going to take some real planning because our bedroom/master bath is on the top floor (by itself) of a three story house. To do anything takes going down at least one level. I am going to have to think what I need to bring upstairs with me in the morning so that I can try to make fewer trips.

Now that I have done all of the healing work, it is time to have fun! I no longer have guilt and so there is nothing stopping me from knitting, playing my violin, watching TV, reading, playing games on my iPad, daydreaming, listening to music, etc. Being sick is a hard work. I don’t have to apologize for having fun hobbies to enjoy when I have enough energy.

What can you do to take better care of yourself?

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  • Tami Stackelhouse March 10, 2015, 9:23 pm

    YAY!! So what I said must’ve sunk in. =)

    BTW – one of the things I do is place things on the stairs (top or bottom) for the next time I’m making a trip. For example, if we bring home toothpaste from the store, I’ll put it at the bottom of the stairs to take up to the bathroom the next time I go. Saves me a ton of steps!

    • Tamara Staples March 11, 2015, 1:30 am

      Great idea. I am trying to think through how I can make fewer trips. Having the microwave and small refrigerator upstairs helps. I just need to plan my food, beverages and medications for the day. That would stop a lot of the trips.

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